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Sunday, April 10, 2005

conflict conflake ii

wow amazing... it's been such a long time since someone used my tagboard *hint hint*. but now that someone has, she has written some pretty interesting (and relevant) stuff. thanks for the feedback.

so let's put this down as a regular entry before people start flooding the tagboard (and we now how highly probable that is) and what she wrote gets pushed down to oblivion.

-jOy-: well.coflicts happen to be my proj topic.so i had to say my peace(pun intended).
-jOy-: but i wld agree on thrashing out in most situations
-jOy-: well.there's 5 approaches to resolving conflicts. 1.accomodating 2.avoiding 3.problem solving 4.dominating 5.compromising so..actually.there's no one best way to resolve. it'situational.

besides point 2, which i would highly not recommend (read previous post), every other point mentioned needs both parties to communicate (at least) to be effective

point 1, to be accomodating would mean that you would either have to have a very high level of tolerance (very rare in human beings) or crudely put, you're just gonna suck everything up. and we all knows wat happens to balloons (and condoms) when u continuously pump them up with air.

point 3, problem solving requires you to know the problem in the first place. how 2 know the problem by not communicating?

point 4, you can probably dominate another person just by actions and not words, so this is probably still up for debate.

point 5, which is the goal i try to attain to deal with every conflict, surely requires communication. compromising is for both parties to so called "each take a step back" and accepting each other's opinions. communication surely needed for this one.

so i'm just saying it's there's a problem, talk about it, no point ignoring it or hiding it from the other person, hoping that it will go away.

because in most cases, it will not.

stating my rights at 4:43 PM

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